School Report

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On Friday afternoon Amaya received her school report.  As a family, I requested that we all sit down and read it together for the first time.  So with us all snuggled on the couch and my reading voice ready to project itself, I began to cry as I was reading the words in front of me.  Through tears, and a choked voice, I read the following school report:

Amaya is an unbelievable student and a real pleasure to teach.  She always comes to class with a smile on her face and ready to learn.  She is very respectful of the teachers and her fellow classmates.  Her personality shines brightly in the class as she is very well liked.  Amaya is an excellent role model for all of the other students as she abides by all the rules and goes above and beyond to better her skills.  Her hard work has helped her to develop steadily and I see no signs of her slowing down.  Amaya has an extreme amount of potential and with her attitude, the sky truly is the limit.  Excellent job Amaya!

I have mentioned previously in blogs that I will not negotiate on my children’s education.  Often Amaya comes home and tells me that her teacher states that the homework in her bag is not mandatory.  I reply by stating: ‘In my house, homework is mandatory’.  Our Saturday and Sunday mornings are often spent completing her homework.  But you know what, it is not just about homework and being a half-Tiger mother.  It is about so much more that makes Amaya have an ‘extreme amount of potential’.

I acknowledge that is also about genetics – thanks to her dad – and me of course.  And also her grandparents.

But, once again, it is about so much more.  When Luke and I are with our children we rarely use any form of technology.  When we all go out together as a family on an ‘adventure’ (as we call it), we don’t prop our children in front of technology with earplugs.  The only time my children get to watch the television, is on the weekends – even then, it is limited time.  In our house, we have world affairs magazines and piles and piles of books in the main bedroom on display and that my children read and flip through.  Also in our house we have two aunties that provide my children – and me – with so much support, love, care and attention.  Luke and I on the weekends are not bogged down by the mundane domestic chores.  More families need such support.

But, once again, it is about so much more than that.  And, I can’t really put my finger on it.

What do you think it is that stops kids from falling through the gaps at this age?

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6 thoughts on “School Report

  1. Empowerment for Amaya and conformation of positive and loving parenting for your little family unit. I applaud you guys, Shan and Luke, Amaya and Remy.

      • This ia a curly question!
        Ok… Here are a couple of “life experiences” viewed from my little window…

        I believe as a mother, we first establish our nurturing role, giving love, protection, provision and early acceptable cultural behaviorial lessons. This all takes place within the sphere of home and immediate carers – like our extended family.
        Then, the kids begin to move out into the big world via school and play. Lessons from home are never forgotten. They are just validated. I think Amaya’s report experience is perfect evidence that you are doing a grand job.

        Roll on a few more years… I firmly believe mothers take on a very special place in a tween’s world. They continue with their earliest role but now they become a mentor…carefully crafting answers (and questions) which will include the parents’ position and explore the child’s ideas but continue to shape and hone acceptable behaviour and knowledge. I remember asking my kids more and more for their own opinions and ideas as they explored the path towards adulthood but always kept firm boundaries. And – I believe we can become “good mates” – joining in with certain activities / games / adventures which should not be left just to the children’s peers only. We – as teachers – know how powerful peers are during teenage years. From your blog, you do have family outings and special times with your kids which is so cool.

        Also, I firmly believe a sense of humour and the ability to have a laugh can be the glue or the attraction young people miss out on with their parents as they go into their teenage years. (I always marvel at what kids at different ages find funny! We oldies have to use that quirkiness to our advantage !)
        I know this is an odd justification, but after my son came out of the coma from his acute head injury (motorbike accident the Friday before his VCE English exam), I made a deliberate effort to be positive and happy. The nurses, doctors and staff were impressed with what rapid progress he made and how he always looked for something to smile about…even dumb jokes.
        I was never afraid to do kid activities with my teenagers: water fights, catching carp in our irrigation channel by hand for my Biology dissection class, searching for doodle bugs, going to an art gallery and giving our own commentary / interpretation before reading the real information, making up games in the car, going to horse shows – just enjoying progress, wins, and laughing at mistakes. I firmly believe if parents are positive and happy (and at least chuckle once a day with your kids), how can they not want their parents to be the nucleus of their personal world as they traverse the minefield of adolescence?

        Shan, you won’t have to save Amaya from her teenage years, just enjoy the journey and challenges with her. You and Luke are already setting up the essential tapestry for her to fill in with her unique personality!

        Hummmm that was a bit long! Sorry about that…I got lost in my past.

  2. For a child to know they are listened to, loved, nurtured, disciplined, and to have as many adventures as possible – even if they never leave the house! You’re an inspiration, as always, Shan and Luke xxx

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